Tuesday Tidbits

God Made Moms To Teach Their Children....Things Are Not Always Equal But Should Always Be Fair.

I was having a conversation with a friend a few weeks back and shared with her how I felt my mom showed more favor when it came to helping my brother, meaning she has and always is doing more for him than what she has or does for me. I told my friend I would never be that way with my boys, I love them the same and would treat them equally the same. My friend responded with something similar to this " it's better to be fair than equal because the need(s) may never be same ". Her response put things in prospective for me as a daughter and as a mother. Everyone has different need levels, so how can the meeting of the needs be equal? It can never be equal but it should always be fair. I encourage you in being fair when it comes to your children and I also encourage you to teach your children early that being fair always overrides being equal.

Be blessed and encouraged today, it's your choice. ~Delphine

Matthew 20:1-15

Tuesday Tidbits

God Made Moms To Teach Their Children...That Children Should Behave As Children

This morning I had to have the " I'm the parent and your the child " talk with my four year old, his response to my breakfast question sparked the much needed talk. It's called "talk" because I was the only one doing the talking this time. Femi had responded, " I've already told you that I wanted cereal ", I did not like the tone Femi was using with me so I went into my authoritative mother tone. As I was driving into work this morning I pondered on why children don't behave as children should, it would really make my life easier. I thought about Femi and I thought about the conflict I had with my other son Idris on last night. I went to bed upset with Idris and Idris went to bed upset with me. To say the least, I woke up this morning still upset and told my husband that I wasn't going to be dealing with Idris. Now I ask you who was behaving as the child? I had decided I wasn't going to talk to Idris today and would go as long as I could without talking to him. Well my decision didn't last long because Idris greeted me with a "good morning mom" and of course I reciprocated the greeting. The conflict I had with Idris on last night would have warranted me a "killing" when I was his age but to my surprise I walked away from Idris. I wanted to kill him but I also admired his inner strength, the inner strength I didn't have at his age. I can tell you he manipulated his way out of a whipping or even talked his way out of a whipping but I learned that even as an adult/parent, I sometimes respond in a childish manner. Ladies, this entry could go on and on but I'm going to end it by saying "children should be the only ones behaving as children and adults should always behave as adults".

Be blessed and encouraged today, it's your choice. ~Delphine

Friendship

True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.

-Charles Caleb Colton

Thank You to Moms of Brown Kids

I just want to thank all of you for the support and for all your offerings of condolences through your emails, your calls, and your prayers. I feel the peace of God so HE has answered your prayers. It's good to be loved and it's even better to show love. I consider all of you my friends and sisters. I lost a close friend but God called HIS child home. I appreciate you and I know Sabrina and her family appreciates the prayers.

I love you brown moms for being who you are, thank you for the LOVE.

Be blessed and encouraged, it's your choice.~ Delphine

PS I also want to send a special shout out and thank you to my girls who took me out to celebrate my birthday even though I didn't feel like it. It was exactly what I needed, true friendship is so important. Thank you to the Queen and her court (smile)

Tuesday Tidbits

God Made Moms....To Teach Their Kids About Life and about Friendships


Ladies, I lost a close friend to cancer on last Friday. Today's post is in memory of Sabrina Terrell, my thirty-four year old friend. Pray for the kids that she leaves behind. I'm praying they live long, productive, and prosperous lives. I pray God's continual protection and provisions for them. My mother is still living so I can not relate to the pain these kids are feeling, keep them in prayer. I lost a friend but they have lost more.

Be blessed and encouraged today, you have life. ~ Delphine

Tuesday Tidbits

God Made Moms To Teach....Their Children About Being A Friend.

I recently watched the movie "The Things We Lost In the Fire" starring Halle Berry. This movie made me think of my friends, the people I share things with and who I surround myself with. I began to evaluate some of my friends and the relationships we share. Many of them I can depend on and many of them can depend on me, there are a few who are questionable but I still call them friend. The movie reminded me that to have friends, you must be a friend. The movie's plot outline is that a recent widow (Halle Berry) invites her husband's troubled best friend to live with her and her two children. As he gradually turns his life around, he helps the family cope and confront their loss. I must tell you that I cried a lot during this movie, my heart hurt for the family and because of the husband's big heart, the husband had been friends with this guy since second grade, he loved and shared with his friend in spite of how the friend was living. He was always supportive and patient with his drug addict friend. Several parts of the stuck out to me but this one more then any other part....the family was having dinner after the funeral and began reminiscing over the years they had spent with the now dead husband, brother, friend, and neighbor. The sister was sharing a childhood swimming experience and couldn't remember the entire story, the drug addict friend was able to help her out because the friend had shared it with him. Another one was when the older child skipped school and the friend knew exactly where to find her. To make this blogg entry short, I have a friend in hospice suffering from cancer she doesn't have long. Arrangements are being made for her two children and there appears to be some confusion about who will take the children. It has caused the family to question other family members motives regarding the children, some think they just want the kids for the money, but because of me listening to my friend over the past months and for years before she was diagnosed with cancer, I knew who she wanted to take care of her children and was able to share it with her family. This may not mean much to those of you reading this right now but being a listening friend is one of the most important thing in being a friend.

Be blessed and encouraged today, it's your choice.~ Delphine

Tuesday Tidbits

God Made Moms To Teach Their Children....That You Don't Have to Be Like The World to Impact the World.

Jesus the Savior, our savior came through a woman, many would have least expected to deliver the promised Messiah. Why was that? Was it because Mary came from a working class family, a family that was not considered a wealthy family? Was it because she was so young? Was it just because of who she was? Mary wasn't like many but she was who she was, the one God chose. The biblical Mary we know may not be the type that many in today's society would expect to make such a positive impact on the world but she did. When I think about who I am and think about who my surrounding friends are...we may or may not be like many in the world but we don't have to be to impact the world. Ponder on that for a moment. We are able to impact the world, our world by just being who God made and blessed us to be. Consider our family and friends, now imagine the impact that our family and friends will have on world because of our impact on them.


A special shout out to these women for their impacts on the world.

Stephanie Hankerson, was selected last week as "Teacher of the Year" at Albany State University. (cheers)

Sabrina Holloman, has been promoted to Public Safety Administrator for the City she resides in. (cheers)

Tara Hall, has been offered an adjunct professor position, this adds to arenas of teaching for her. (cheers)

Vermotta Hall, studied above and beyond for the Florida Bar exam and proved that the sacrifice was well worth it. (cheers)

Sonya Stephens, ran a marathon this weekend after just a few weeks of training. (cheers)

Twyla Scott, ran a marathon last month and finished with a great time. (cheers)

These few women who I consider friends have definitely made an impact on the world and me. I'm inspired.

Be blessed and encouraged today, it's your choice! ~ Delphine